Watching one of those train-wreck reality shows the other night where yet another whiny bride-to-be screams after her disagreeing groom â€œItâ€™s MY DAY!â€ Todd shakes his head and asks, â€œWhatâ€™s all this My Day stuff, isnâ€™t it Our Day?â€
I love that man.
Yes, more than anything it is Our day. Iâ€™ve never had the all-about-me desire that many brides seem to have (in fact, to tell the whole truth, being the center of attention for that long is a little scary!). But itâ€™s not just us–itâ€™s also for our guests.
And hereâ€™s where the real tightrope-walking comes in:
While itâ€™s true that we want to do things our way and not be forced to go along with a practice or “tradition” just because everyone else does or certain people expect it, we also want our guests to enjoy themselves and, basically, be great hosts.
I know there will be the inevitable scrunched nose at some of our choices, but for every 2 steps we take off the beaten path, itâ€™s probably a good idea to put out a familiar mile marker to our guests looking for the straight and narrow.
And something tells me I might need reminding of this magnanimous point of view when I get one too many scrunched noses or â€œwhat are the rest of us going to eatâ€ responses but, really, if we didnâ€™t care about our guests, we would have bothered inviting them, right?
Do you keep your guests in mind as you make wedding decisions
or do you see them just a captive audience?