The Rain Plan

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

With two-thirds of our wedding outdoors and another soggy day on the horizon, the fact that early November is usually dry makes no difference. It’s time to consider Plan R, aka the Rain Plan.

When we signed our contract with Honey Lake Plantation we were given the option of booking the ourdoor area for one price, or the outdoor area and the chapel as backup for a slightly higher fee. I suppose a slight upcharge in the beginning, though, is better than having to pay for a tent at the last minute. And while the chapel is lovely, it’s just not where we see ourselves getting married!

The Chapel at Honey Lake Plantation

The Chapel at Honey Lake Plantation | personal image

Inside the HLP Church | image via HoneyLakePlantation.com

Inside the HLP Church | image via HoneyLakePlantation.com

If I’m not mistaken, the stained glass in the church is the oldest in Florida (I feel like I’m back in docent lessons at the other plantation I worked at way back when) and the mid-day light coming through them would be gorgeous, but the space is just so big and heavy for our little, light gathering.

Still, I’m glad we’ll be covered in case of inclement weather.

At our planning meeting, though, I did think to ask where we’d hold the outdoor coffee and cocktails in case of rain–that was something we hand’t discussed and while there is a vestibule in the church it’s not nearly large enough to work.

The DoC’s answer was the White Ballroom. Also a touch on the small side, I would imagine, if we had to utilize the space, we’d have some room to walk around the hallways and lobby even if they were setting up for an evening event in the main part of the gathering hall. The White Ballroom though, man, is it gorgeous. Super chi-chi, it’s a favorite for bridal portraits and the infamous dress shots.

The White Ballroom, Honey Lake Plantation | photography by Terri Smith Photo

The White Ballroom, Honey Lake Plantation | photography by Terri Smith Photo

Image via Style Me Pretty | Photography by Laura Yang

Image via Style Me Pretty | Photography by Laura Yang Photography

 I suppose if it’s looking like rain I’ll track down some umbrellas, but the venue does have a small fleet of golf carts to get people between buildings should worst come to worst. Thankfully, unless we’re dealing with sideways rain (not impossible, especially when the wind decides to tag-team), our reception space should keep us all dry enough. I’m more concerned about it being too cold that day with the Owl’s Nest being, essentially, a big screened porch, but even then I’m sure we can rent some space heaters if necessary.

Or drink more wine!

Still, I’m hoping for a brisk fall day for our wedding. And in a couple of months I can start stalking the weather incessantly.

The Other Sort of Rain Plan

We recently had a bump in the road that has upped the stress-ante as far as wedding finances are concerned. While still hoping for the best, I sprang into worst case scenario mode and looked at our options: what could we cut, how can we make sure we uphold our obligations without wrecking our future, that sort of thing. This is what I’d call a metaphorical rain plan and now that we have it in place, I feel a lot more confident on both scores, even though I hope both types of rain plan stay in the theoretical.

While we plan in what feels like a bit of a bubble, wrapped up in our color schemes and themes, there’s a big world out there that doesn’t really give two pins about our plans and might just send us ass over teakettle before it’s all said and done. Someone loses a job, a family member becomes gravely ill or worse, or the car dies. Schtuff happens. We plan for what to do in case the skies open on our wedding days, but I think it’s worth taking some time to come up with contingency plans. The ‘in case of emergency break Champagne glass’ sort of thing. It goes along with setting priorities but it’s more than that, too.

In the face of big life events, wedding details can seem trivial, but they also represent continuity. Life goes on. Laughter over tears. Maybe spend some time this weekend thinking up the answers to those what-ifs that could try to derail your plans. Not to add stress to your already full plate or borrow trouble, but to make sure you’re ready. Just in case…

Do you have your rain plan(s) in place?

Dressing the Reception Space

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

For those who don’t remember our reception area, it’s called the Owl’s Nest, is perched above a building that houses and hides a big ‘ol water tank (fashionable function, gotta love it), and affords views of all three main lakes at Honey Lake Plantation.

Exterior shot of the Owl's Nest reception venue at Honey Lake Plantation

The Owl’s Nest at Honey Lake Plantation | personal image

While the views are lovely, the inside of the space is a little on the plain side.

Inside of the Owl's Nest at Honey Lake Plantation

Owl’s Nest as it looked on our first tour, set up as their cigar bar | personal image

So when we found out that colored linens didn’t come standard (we’d been told otherwise on that first meeting, but didn’t get in writing–always get it in writing!!!) our reception space was starting to look somewhat bland with the standard white linens.

Owl's Nest with boring white linens | personal mock-up

Owl’s Nest with rather boring white linens | personal mock-up

Seeing as the look I really loved was more along the lines of dark, bare wood tables with white napkins and runners on them for that stark contrast, but renting those pretty tables wasn’t anywhere close to being in our budget, I’d decided to go with dark brown tablecloths and white napkins in that waterfall style (I guess that’s what it’s called–the napkin is folding in narrow thirds and draped from the center of the place setting downward). Thankfully, I found just the right linens from SmartyHadAParty.com for about 2/3 (including shipping) of what the venue’s rental folks wanted to charge (before the venue’s 20% service fee). Sold!

Brown linens, white napkins | personal mock-up

Brown linens, white napkins–somewhat more interesting | personal mock-up

But then one day I went wandering down the newly reinstated fabric aisle at Wal-Mart out of idle curiosity (a habit which has gotten me multiple bins of fabric in The Abyss over the years) and I found the perfect fabric to use as table runners!

Smarty Had a Party included Smarties candy with my order--how sweet! | persona image

Smarty Had a Party included Smarties candy with my order–how sweet! Ordered linens on the bottom, runner fabric on the top. | personal image

As you can see, though, the runner fabric has an ivory background, so I’m thinking now that we’re going to use the other standard napkins that HLP provides (green) to prevent clashing. Admittedly I’m probably the only one who would notice, but it would bug me and it doesn’t cost anything for this change, so changed it will be. I bought whatever was on the bolt for the vine fabric and my Google-fu tells me that unless I come across another spare bolt by chance, that’s all the fabric I get as the manufacturer has closed down and everywhere I find it online has it listed as out of stock. Still, the 6-ish yards should give me the needed runners for our 6 dining tables plus some extra that I’m thinking will make an excellent altar cloth for the ceremony. I’ll figure something else out (or not) for dressing up the high-top tables for cocktail hour.

And finally the "room" is starting to come together | personal mock-up

And finally the “room” is starting to come together | personal mock-up

With some mocked-up wine bottle centerpieces added (the real ones are still in the works, more details to come), our cork monogram (as yet still a planned project) on the door behind where the bride and groom will be conveniently seated, and a few more place-holder squiggles, I’m finally liking what I’m seeing. Speaking of squiggles–did I mention we get to hang stuff on the posts in the Owl’s Nest?! That almost never happens in event spaces, so I’m planning some ribbon and faux-grape swags to hang on each of the 8 post/pillar things along the length of the space.

I can hardly wait to see how it turns out in reality! I think I might have to drag out the folding table and do a test set-up at some point. If nothing else it’ll be good to photograph and send to the DoC for set-up examples. (Like Miss Rucksack, I’m pretty Type-A about these sorts of things, too!)

Groomswear: Check!

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

It was back in late August of last year that we sorta, kinda, half-way shopped for Mr. Road Trips suit of choice for the wedding. We looked, found out some info, thought we knew the direction we were going in and then promptly let it drop. By June of this year I was getting pretty antsy to get some decisions made so we set out with the goal of not coming back without a suit purchased. I was armed with all sorts of discount offers (it being two weeks ’til Father’s Day–perfect suit-buying time, by the way) and sale info, and we ended up needing not one bit of it.

Our first stop was back to Men’s Warehouse (which could have been called Men’s Mad-house, this day) and what to our wandering eyes should appear but pretty much the perfect suit for our mid-day nuptials.

Pronto Uomo Vintage Two-Button Notch Lapel Suit  | image via Men's Warehouse

Pronto Uomo Vintage Two-Button Notch Lapel Suit | image via Men’s Warehouse

Since they only had the one sample suit on display (and not in Mr. RT’s size) I wasn’t able to see it on him but we did remember to at least hold up the fabric to his skin to make sure it didn’t turn to some gawd-awful olive the way some of their taupe suits did on the last visit. We chose an ivory shirt instead of the white and the jury’s still out whether he’ll wear the vest or not (I like the idea of him wearing it, we’ll probably wait and see how it all looks in person the week of the wedding before making the final call).

While a suit rental usually comes with everything needed, they didn’t have anything other than the black or white shoes for rent, so we opted out of that, as well as the tie as we were finding nothing there that we liked with this suit option. Before we could scoot out of there, smugly satisfied that our errand had gone so smoothly, they had to do some measurements and such, and this time I did manage to get pictures!

Mr RT and our very dapper sales associate,

Mr RT and our very dapper sales associate, Joshua

After this is was all over but the tie, right? We went through so, so many men’s departments at the mall that afternoon looking for a tie. Purple was not a colorway easily found and when we did, it was frequently paired up with greys and blues–not what we were going for–and usually in the $60 range. T’s office is fairly casual, so spending $60 on a tie we weren’t all that crazy about wasn’t all that appealing.

Finally, on our way to the car, we stopped in one last, little shop, the kind of shop where all sales are final and you never know what you might find, what we found was pretty much the perfect tie and pocket-square combo for $20. Sold!

Accessories done!

Accessories done! (The background checks on the tie are brown, even though they look a little grey in this photo)

Add to that Mr. Road Trip’s recent acquisition of a new pair of brown dress shoes and he’s officially good to go.

While we had seriously considered purchasing a suit for him, he really wouldn’t have gotten much wear out of it, so renting made more sense at this stage of the game. I know there are some very dapper grooms among the hive, ones that are deeply invested into their celebratory threads, but I have to say I’m kind of glad Mr. Road Trip isn’t one of them.

Double Digits and I’m Okay With That

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

When Mr. Road Trip and I first set a date our countdown was in the low 800s. Now we’ve dropped under 100 days–actually 3 months until the wedding–and I’m surprisingly calm.

So is T, for that matter. He even did a little happy dance when he announced we were at 100 days–he’s so sweet!

The fact that we’re both rather calm is slightly surreal–I fully expected to be a tiny bit panicky over the length of the DIY list yet to finish. And while that list is still somewhat daunting, the biggies are coming along nicely.

Projects in progress | personal photo

Peeks at progress! | personal photo

And what’s even better? I’m back to being excited about the projects I planned so many months ago. The Abyss (my home office/craft room) is filling up with bags and boxes of supplies, and I look forward to working on the next thing. I’m hoping this last–I need this to last–and that the throw-the-hands-in-the-air-and-press-the-fuqit-button stays way in the future.

Lurking in the back of my mind, though, is the feeling like I’m forgetting something. Like I’m forgetting something major. The feeling that just had me checking the checklist features over on The Knot and Wedding Wire. According to them, the Road Trips and heading in the right direction, but I still feel like something’s being missed.

Does anyone else have that feeling?!

Crafting the Ceremony: the Handfasting

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

The final portion of our ceremony will be a handfasting–something the Hive is no stranger to, thankfully, but something that in our neck of the woods isn’t too common. Because of this, we thought it’d be helpful for Friend-ficiant L to say just a few words about it’s history so our guests wouldn’t be completely lost. Something along the lines of…

The Road Trips have chosen to conclude the ceremony with a handfasting. In centuries past, when towns were spread out and priests would travel from place to place,  there wasn’t always an official  handy when a couple wanted to be wed. Necessity being the mother of invention, couples would bind their hands together in a simple ceremony to declare their intentions, with the community as witness to the new union. This is where we get the phrase “tying the knot.”

While we don’t have that problem today, of course, I just really liked the visual symbolism of tying the knot, it gives the ceremony a nice closing element, I think. And while most scripts I’ve found for handfasting seem to take place before the rings, I thought it would make more sense to do all the other stuff then end with the tying of the knot.

Our handfasting cord | personal photo

Our handfasting cord | personal photo

It’s fairly well established by now that I’m of the crafty persuasion, so it probably comes as no surprise that I crafted our handfasting cord, too, right? There’s no real pattern or tutorial for this, I just strung a bunch of 6/0 or e-sized beads onto Number 10 Crochet Cotton and made a 5-stitch round cable out of a mix of double and triple crochet, adding and subtracting stitches at random to give it a more organic feel and slipping in beads whenever it seemed like a good idea. I did the original cord 36 inches long then doubled back, attaching the second pass to the first at intervals and doing the same with the third pass for 3 intertwined vines. Then beaded the ends in little grape-like cascades.

Mr. Road Trip will be making the box that will hold the cord both before and after the ceremony, but his work schedule’s been a little hectic so hasn’t managed more than picking up the materials. Once he gets started on it, it shouldn’t take very long. He’s pretty crafty, too, especially when there are power tools involved.

After looking through a lot of ceremony wording, we managed to cobble together this short but sweet version that we think will work for us, though some revisions are inevitable.

In a collaborative effort not unlike the marriage we are here to witness, both Miss and Mr Road Trip have created something for this ritual. Miss Road Trip has created the cord in the style of three intertwining vines, one each for the past, the present, and the future. Once tied these cords will reside in a wooden box Mr Road Trip made specifically for this purpose and will have a place of honor in their home together.

Road Trips, please join hands, right to right and left to left, forming the symbol of infinity.

Like a stone may your love be firm; like a star may your love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you in your marriage, let the strength of your wills bind you together, let the power of love and the desire make you happy, and the strength of your dedication make you inseparable. Enjoy closeness, but retain your individuality. Support one another with patience and understanding. Freely give of your affection and warmth.

May this cord draw your hands together in love, may the vows you have spoken today remain sweet in your mouths.

As your hands are joined, so are your lives.

Now, to close the ceremony, it’s usually “you may now kiss the bride ” or the slightly more equal ” you may now kiss each other.” We weren’t really looking for an option, but while catching up on many DVR’d Four Weddings, we  heard the officiant say “you may now start your marriage with a kiss.” How much better is that, I ask you?!

And as we kiss, what song will play?

(Direct link for the feed readers: Little Wonders by Rob Thomas)

Meet the Robinsons is, hands-down, my favorite Disney movie ever and no matter how many times I watch it (even back-to-back, to listen to the commentary) when the opening bars of Little Wonders play I get choked up. And since I’m very picky about lyrics, when I listened to the words and not just the emotion of the song I was even more impressed and it was an easy decision to ask Mr. Road Trip if he’d mind this as our Kiss/Recessional song. As he loves the movie almost as much as I do it wasn’t a hard sell.

It’s just got such a great message about embracing the moments and feelings, and letting everything else drop away. *frissons of excitement* Every. Time.

So while Rob Thomas croons we’ll kiss, slip out of the still-tied handfasting cord and place it in its box, sign the wedding certificate, probably kiss again (it could happen), then recess down the aisle.