aka The Down Side to Being Prepared/Planning Ahead
It doesnâ€™t really matter what the situation is, at first your on an absolute high, on top of the mountain spinning like a deranged top, ideas flowing forth and just ready to burst.But you canâ€™t spin forever.
At some point that initial high wears off and you slow down and you sit down and you wonder: now what?
Sometimes that low comes when you realize itâ€™s time to buckle down and make those dreams happen, other times itâ€™s frustration–like youâ€™re waiting for Christmas to open the presents. You know itâ€™s coming but it just wonâ€™t get here fast enough!
Todd and I had talked about it, we knew we were on the same page and he knew that I had a timeline in mind that was still quite a ways out, so no pressure to take that next step and officially become engaged. The only thing was I was on that mountain-top, spinning with ideas and plans and possibilities, but not able to shout and share the happiness.
Because we had agreed that we werenâ€™t telling folks until we were officially engaged. And it was a good choice: it gave us time to get comfortable with the idea before going public. It made sense. But it also left me in limbo.
I find myself, often, somewhere between a methodical researcher/planner and a spontaneous decision-maker. Many times in my life itâ€™s a now-or-never sort of thing (a haircut, a hair color, a shoe or dress buying impulse, registering yet another domain name) that finds me spending money at 2 a.m. and, generally, still liking it the next morning. But thatâ€™s when itâ€™s just me.
When someone else is involved, Iâ€™m torn between pushing and asking and wanting until I get my way and being polite and non-threatening. The latter is how I really want to be–honest!–but the former is the impulse that I have to fight to be the better person.
So while I might pick up a copy of Brides magazine and tab pages for future reference or mention something I found that day as a fun project for the future nuptials, my fervor for planning had flagged.
And it was all about the what-ifs:
- What if heâ€™s not as into the idea as he originally thought he was?
- What if he changes his mind?
- What if he waits 6 months, 9 months or even–heaven forbid!–a year to pop the question?!
These were the thoughts swirling around my head right around summer.Â Yes, waiting was slow torture, like the aforementioned Christmas morning when youâ€™re not allowed to go into the living room and open presents until the grown-ups get up, you have to content yourself with just your stocking goodies. And eventually I broached the subject with Todd and he assured me it was coming–by the end of the year, but I probably wouldn’t have to wait until Christmas.
Turns out, I didn’t have to wait even that long.
Did you know the proposal was coming?
Did it drive you crazy with anticipation or was it just me?