The 7-Month To-Do List

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

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With just over 200 days to go I admit the wedding is looming larger in my thoughts. Seems like just last week I was writing up the 8-month list, and now, well, 7 months is awfully close to 6 months and 6 months is practically nothing in wedding time!

In other words: I’ve got to get on the ball!

The experts seem to suggest that 7 months is one of those limbo months, no hard and fast to-do’s other than what’s left from the 8-months and on, but I beg to differ. Seven months out seems the perfect time to knock out some serious DIY!

To that end, allow me to suggest some projects that would benefit from some attention if you, as well, are rapidly approaching 200 days out!

  • Research any vows, readings, or rituals you want included in your ceremony and begin to draft your wedding program in preparation of meeting with your officiant.
  • Purchase the necessary liability insurance if you venue requires it and you have no homeowners policy to attach a rider to. Some policies can’t be purchased more than a year in advance, and now’s a good time to take care of the necessary paperwork before logistical meetings with your venue really heat up.
  • Start shopping for non-perishable supplies for your OOT (out-of-town) bags, favors, bathroom baskets, survival kits, etc. While this depends on how much storage space you have to devote to wedding stuff, stock-piling now means less rushing around later. At the same time, beware buying larger-ticket items until your guest list is more firm.
  • Planning on paper or other non-fresh flowers? Get started on them if you haven’t already. If for no other reason than to figure out just how many you’ll need. Don’t forget about altar decorations or arrangements  for any buffet or cafe tables during cocktail hour, in addition to the usual centerpieces.
  • Start planning out your invitations if you’re designing them yourself. This would also be a good time to brush up on your calligraphy if you planned to hand-address your envelopes.

Essentially, ladies, it’s time to seize the moment and get what we can done now before time slips away from us. Before we know it, we’ll be in a double-digit countdown to the big day and we want to get there with as little stress as possible, yes?

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What’s on your to-do list this month?
Do you feel like you’re ahead of the game or falling behind?

5 Tips to Perfect Thank You Cards

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

Most of our mail is a casual affair these days with email and text messaging taking over the day-to-day communications. While I see the practical side of things like email invitations and online RSVP cards, I just can’t help but think how cool it is to get something other than bills and junk mail in the mailbox on any given day. Thank you cards might just be the last vestige of hope when it comes to retaining the beauty that is the hand-written card, so let’s go over some best practices.

1. Thank yous are easier to write the closer to the event.

This goes along with the idea that almost anything is easier to do if we just get started–putting it off never made it any easier. While I won’t go so far as to suggest you take your thank you cards on your honeymoon (though some industrious brides have done just that), setting time aside just after your bridal shower is certainly not a bad idea. If you’ve got a few waiting-room sessions in your future (the DMV, Social Security, and other name-change offices) bring the cards along and be productive when and where you can. This might be one of the reasons etiquette dictates 2-3 months as an acceptable timeline for getting those cards out.

2. A thank you is more personal if it’s handwritten.

Which usually means that the partner with the best handwriting gets the task. While it’s fine to have a sweet sentiment printed inside the card you choose or design, make sure there’s still room for a nice note somewhere on the card.

3. To make it easier to get the cards written, keep all the supplies in one (portable) place.

Cards, envelopes, a couple of pens (in case one runs out), stamps, and any envelope seals or stickers that you’re using can easily fit into a cigar box or other small enclosure. Decorate it if it makes you feel better, but keeping your act together will make the whole process much more enjoyable.

And a happy writer is a productive writer!

4. Be formal where necessary, be familiar when possible.

When you start your card with Dear So-and-so, the way you address the giver depends on your relationship. Your husband’s boss’s wife whom you’ve only just met at the engagement part? Mrs. Bossman is probably the way to go. But that family friend that you’ve always referred to as Uncle Bob (even if there’s no blood or marriage relation in place), go ahead and start with Dear Uncle Bob, since that’s the way you’d address them in person.

5. Keep things simple, but make it personal.

A thank you note can easily be just three lines

  • The initial thank-you stating the event you saw them at and/or the gift they gave you.
  • A short sentence about how you think you’ll use the gift.
  • The repeat of thanks to close the note with sincerity.

So, really, a thank you card could read

Dear Aunt Jo,

It was wonderful of you to make the trip out to the coast for our wedding. The place setting and glassware will look lovely on our holiday table. Thank you for always being there for us kids,

With Love,

Pete and Josie

Of course, you can always include something sweet that happened at the event and anything else you want, but that depends mostly on how many cards you have to write and how much time you’re willing to spend on them.

Cash gifts require a bit more creativity, but a message like “thank you for your generous gift, it will certainly come in handy while we get settled into our new home” will certainly get the point across. If you’ve gone the honeymoon registry path, telling them about the trip is another way to word a thank-you.

Alright, now, no excuses!

Achievement Unlocked: Guest “Book”

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

With so many options out there for creative guest books, it’s easy to fall into option overload and not be able to decide. This is where having a theme or over-riding idea can really help narrow the options to the ones that really drive that home.

In our case, I was looking for something easy to sign and collect that suited our vineyard theme. It’s not exactly a big leap to corks, now is it?

Recycled Corks, image via Amazon.com

Recycled Corks, image via Amazon.com

Depending on the size of your wedding, your drinking habits (and those of your friends and family), and how much time you’ve got it’s not unreasonable to collect all the corks yourself. Of course, as the wine industry goes to synthetic corks and screw-top bottles for various reasons, that might get a little tougher, so lucky for us that plenty of places sell both used and unused corks.

Now, having crafted with corks before, it might be easier for folks to sign fresh corks as opposed to used ones that might be brittle or uneven in shape. We’ve got quite a collection already going but there’s also a homebrew shop just down the road that sells fresh corks by the bag-full for not very much cash. That’s good no matter how you slice it.

Corks on their own will roll around if not corralled, so the next decision was how to hold them–both before and after signing.

For before a bowl or vase with a large opening works best, allowing for people to easily reach in and grab one without too much fuss. Several years ago I was gifted a lovely Block Tulip Garden crystal vase that I think will fit the bill nicely.

image via Winestuff.com

image via Winestuff.com

Once signed, the corks will go into this wire cork cage shaped like a wine bottle. Mr. Road Trip actually gifted me (us) this for our first engaged Christmas so it’s been sitting patiently in its box for over a year, now, waiting for it’s day in the spotlight.  Add a couple of fine-point permanent markers (possibly painted or beribboned to dress it up a bit) and a sign and you’ve got our guest book.

We could just leave the corks in their cage and set the whole kit and kaboodle on the mantle or some place and let it collect dust. Or we could use the signed corks to build a frame around one of our wedding photos in a shadowbox. In other words, I’ll have my wine-themed, semi-unique guest book and my displayable photo mat all at one go!

How did you solve your guest book dilemma?

Searching for Inspiration: the Guest Book

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

The guest book is one of those bits of wedding decor that actually has an honest-to-goodness purpose–it even gets int’s own table, putting it right up there with the cake in level of importance.

Darice Guest Book set, image via Amazon.com

Darice Guest Book set, image via Amazon.com

And, yet, after the wedding the guest book generally gets shoved into a box or onto a shelf, seldom to be looked at again.

Hardly seems fair, right?

Which is why I always thought, even when I wasn’t considering another marriage as a possibility, that having guests sign a photo mat that could then be hung in the home with a picture from the day made much more sense in the grand scheme of things.

Darice Signature Mat, image via Amazon.com

Darice Signature Mat, image via Amazon.com

And those crafty wedding vendors have even come up with a silver version with an engraving pens, just so you don’t have to worry about the mat clashing with whatever decor you have in your home.

 

Engraved Photo Mat by Cathy's Concepts

Engraved Photo Mat by Cathy’s Concepts (image via Amazon)

Then again. I’m not sure the signatures would be easily seen once hung on the wall, they might look more like scratches.

At any rate, I figured a signature mat was the way we’d go and considered the matter closed.

Until I found wedding blogs and saw all of the creative ways brides and grooms were collecting these mementos of their guests!

Thumbprint Wedding Tree, image via Thumbprint Guest Books

Thumbprint Wedding Tree, image via Thumbprint Guest Books

The thumbprint posters are absolutely adorable and I could have easily drawn one suited to us (a bunch of grapes, perhaps?) but I have a hunch that many of our friends would balk at the idea of leaving their thumbprint anywhere not legally mandated. We have some suspicious friends.

Envelope-filled guest album via Style Me Pretty Photography: Charlotte Jenks Lewis Photography

Envelope-filled guest album via Style Me Pretty
Photography: Charlotte Jenks Lewis Photography

Going back to the more traditional guest book, this book of envelopes is very nice–like storybooks with little extras, those envelopes just beg to be opened and the nice and funny notes inside read.

Wedding Guestbook pages from The Guestbook Store

Wedding Guestbook pages from The Guestbook Store

As a scrapbooker, of course I liked this idea of the the fill-in-the-blanks guest book with places for pictures, etc. Of course, these sorts of pages expect guests to spend a certain amount of time filling them out, and I’d rather folks have time to mingle than have their heads down over a page. Those that would even bother, that is.

"where is my birthday" Guest Book Calendar

From Flickr user vjoyking, a “where is my birthday” guest book calendar

And this guest book calendar is inspired! Having each guest sign on their birthday is not only unique but useful, too! You’ll never have an excuse for forgetting Aunt Martha’s birthday again. Of course, a perpetual calendar would also work well for this, it doesn’t have to be tied to a single year.

Guest Bench by Knocked Off Photo by Scott V.

Guest Bench by Knocked Off
Photo by Scott V.

Revisiting the more out-of-the box solutions, this guest bench is a lovely keepsake for a home, which brings up the idea that pretty much anything a person can sign is fair game for a guest “book” stand-in.

So what would we, wine lovers having a vineyard-themed wedding, choose to use as our signature item of choice?

All in good time… (meaning next update, of course!)

DIY Thank-You Cards Gocco-Style

Third Time Wife, Wedding Planning

Hooray! Something is finally, honest-to-goodness finished in regards to this wedding.

(Okay, so my cardigan is done, but so much else is in varying states of started or planning that to complete a task still feels very big!)

As usual, the whole process took a bit longer than anticipated, but that had to do more with weather than anything else. There are oodles of Gocco tutorials on the web, so I’m going to go through this one pretty fast because, really, it’s just that simple to use.

I had the computer print crop marks on the final copy of our thank you notes so I'd know exactly where to trim them.

I had the computer print crop marks on the final copy of our thank you notes so I’d know exactly where to trim them.

1. Print out a crisp, clear copy of the image you want to print. If you don’t have a carbon-based-toner printer (i.e. laser printer of photocopier) hooked up to your computer, you’ll need to head out to a copy shop and make a copy of your image. The screens react to the carbon-based toner, anything else won’t burn correctly.

2. Trim the image to fit your printing area and place it on the Gocco’s printing pad (make sure there’s a piece of paper on the sticky-side of the printing pad, you don’t want the image you’re burning to get stuck). Load the screen (along with the blue filter, if necessary) into the slot on the cover and two of the bulbs into the bulb housing.

3. (not pictured) Close the lid, click the bulb housing into place (line up the arrows) and then press the cover down until the flashbulbs pop and stop crackling (2-5 seconds).

4. Remove the bulb housing and set it aside to cool before removing (and properly disposing of) the bulbs. Your original image will probably be stuck to the screen–this is good, leave it there and remove the whole screen sandwich from the slot on the inside of the cover.

Of course, not even crop marks can 100% guarantee the image is straight--I had to print several test strips to make sure I was lining my paper up straight. And even then it was hit or miss.

Of course, not even crop marks can 100% guarantee the image is straight–I had to print several test strips to make sure I was lining my paper up straight. And even then it was hit or miss.

5. Fold back the clear plastic sheet on the front of the screen and apply your chosen ink generously over the area to be printed.

6. Return the clear plastic sheet to its usual position and let the ink smoosh down a bit. Smooth the sheet out so it’s all level.

7. Reload the screen into the lid of the printer and then peel off your original image, You should be able to see the burned areas of the screen fairly clearly from this angle.

8. Use some copy paper to test your screen and ink distribution. If you have any edges that need refining or a bad spot on the screen, fill it in with correction fluid. I used white-out and a flat-sided brush to clean up the second d in T’s name because it was smooshing over a bit. If a part of the screen didn’t quite burn all the way, you can carefully take a straight pin and scratch out any emulsion that might be hanging around in the way. Careful, though–too much adjusting can make the problem worse, but just enough will keep you from having to burn another screen.

After I printed all the pretty, textured stock I grabbed plain white sheets to keep printing as long as ink and/or space held out. Ink won.

After I printed all the pretty, textured stock I grabbed plain white sheets to keep printing as long as ink and/or space held out. Ink won.

9. After that, it’s just a matter of printing each card and setting it aside to dry. My Gocco kit came with one drying “rack” that lets the cards stand up without touching. After that gets filled it’s every flat space for itself. Make sure the printed areas don’t touch anything else until they dry and know that the heavier the ink coverage the longer the drying time. Since my cards only have printing on one end, I can stack them in offset layers to maximize space.

Red ink of any type stains the most, with proper cleaning you can get most of the messy bits off.

Red ink of any type stains the most, with proper cleaning you can get most of the messy bits off.

10. Finally, clean your screen if you ever want to use it again. With a piece of scrap paper under your screen, scrape up the remaining ink (you can store it in an airtight container if you want to reuse it and there’s enough to bother with) then wipe off the rest with tissues. My kit came with a small tube of OK Cleaner that does a great job of picking up any residue, though the screen stays stained. I then store my used screens in a quart-size freezer back to keep it from sticking to any of my other supplies.

If you run out of space or time and need to pick up printing another day, you can slip the inked screen into a freezer bag and store it in the fridge to keep it fresh and the ink from drying out.

Put on a movie and set yourself up someplace comfy for this step.

Put on a movie and set yourself up someplace comfy for this step.

It took quite some time–2 days and a little bit!–for my prints to dry due to a combination of high humidity and a little more ink getting through the screen than desired (that second d, I’m telling you…the bane of my existence), but by Wednesday night (I printed them on Sunday afternoon) they’d lost their tackiness enough that I could score and fold them. This part took no time at all since I’d picked up one of those scoring boards (thank you, Hobby Lobby coupon!) to help.

I know letterpress is the print darling du jour, but have you considered screen-printing any of your wedding stationery?