Highway to Happiness: Shall We Process?

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Yes, we shall. Timelines be damned, we were just going to roll with it!

All images courtesy of Pink Shutterbug Photography

All images courtesy of Pink Shutterbug Photography

But before we do, let’s take a look at the aisle and ceremony decor. We kept it simple but, I think, effective. For the aisle markers I needed something free-standing (the earlier idea to use shepherd’s hooks or similar was, of course, nixed when we chose a non-grassy space for the ceremony) but also something that was easy to set out since we would be handing them off to the venue to arrange and you never know who’s going to end up with that job. I drew up the plans for an open crate with a tall lattice back panel, just deep enough to fit a trio of wine bottles, which Roadie was kind enough to build for me. Painted a dark brown and then sponged with a metallic glaze, they were deemed complete with the addition of some moss-coated wire, faux grape clusters, and the aforementioned bottles.

As I mentioned in our planning posts, in lieu of a bridal party, we opted to formally seat our families at the beginning of the ceremony (instead of just the mothers, as is traditional). Starting with Roadie’s family, his father escorted his sister to her seat and Roadie escorted his Mom. Roadie likes Vivaldi’s Four Seasons (as do I), so we settled on the Largo from Winter for their music.

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For my family we went with Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring as played by the Canadian Brass (a subtle nod to Mom dealing with 7 years of her schlepping me around to practices and performances–I played baritone in middle and high school and still do in a community marching band). Brother Scooter escorted Dr. Aunt to her seat, followed by our youngest brother & sister-in-law as Scooter circled back to escort Mama Leadfoot.

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 Now, I’d chosen relative brief songs for both of these selections while simultaneously making sure we had enough music in case we had to use the church (which has a longer aisle). I saw no reason not to let the music play and give everyone time to get settled and just take in the peace and calm of the moment. Unfortunately, I wasn’t the one pressing the play button (or stop, as it were) and the DoC felt differently, fading out the music early and moving onto the next. I’d be lying if I didn’t say I felt rushed, but there was just no way to communicate with her not to keep doing that, so we rolled with it.

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Oooh, the anticipation!

I remember feeling not so much nervous as giddy in that moment. I may have gripped Roadie’s hand a bit tighter than usual and I was feeling rather giggly. There were no butterflies–I don’t even think I felt self-conscious at this point (which is saying something considering the two dozen pairs of eyes trained on us at the moment). I was just happy, and then our music started (Trans-Siberian Orchestra’s Christmas Cannon Rock, edited to remove the singing and some of the extra repeats).

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Why do people (myself included) appear to be laughing in those last two photos? Because, in true form, I got up the altar and immediately realized the rings were off to one side of the altar instead of in the center and reached behind Friend-ficiant L to rearrange them. It’s wonderful to be surrounded by people who know you, your quirks, and love you because of them (or in spite of, take your pick). At any rate, it was a nice ice-breaker, if a wedding ceremony could be said to need one.

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But enough of that, it was time to get serious!

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Highway to Happiness: Let’s Mingle

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Even though our plan had been to greet our guests as they arrived, the transportation mix-up meant that almost everyone had already arrived to greet us, instead. Either way, hugs and happiness overflowed our intimate gathering. The cheese, fruit, and pastries were hitting the spot as we had hoped, and I think there were just as many guests opting for coffee and tea and there were for Champagne or our signature cocktail. (Not wanting to risk a spill but finding myself suddenly parched, I stuck to ice water until after the ceremony.)

I especially love the overhead shots courtesy of the second shooter in the balcony. | All images via Pink Shutterbug Photography

I especially love the overhead shots courtesy of the second shooter in the balcony. | All images via Pink Shutterbug Photography

Roadie and I wandered among our guests and I admit to being a more than a little happy as they started complimenting us on our choice of venue as well as our decorations as they asked about several items. The small desk that held our ceremony programs in an antique from the one-room-schoolhouse days that Roadie and I refinished together–I’d grown up using it as a nightstand, but it predated that use by many years as we found out that Dr. Aunt had used it as a child, herself, and refinished it back when she was in high school. And if guests look closely at the corner of the lid they could still see the impression left by Brother Scooter’s front teeth from a long-ago bed-jumping incident. It may not seem exceedingly wedding-y, but it’s a part of our family’s shared memories, memories that were added to by Roadie and I working together to restore it, so it seemed right to have it serve a useful purpose as we started this next chapter of our own branch of the family history, you know?

It was great to see the little touches we'd plan work so well in the space.

It was great to see the little touches we’d plan work so well in the space.

Our cardbox got a decent workout during Cocktail Hour, but folks were, I think, a little stymied by the cork guest book (despite a sign to explain the hows and whys). We ended up with some signed corks, but less than expected. Oh, well, you win some, you lose some.

In the bottom picture you can see the golf cart that was supposed to pick us up acting as a piece of scenery.

In the bottom picture you can see the golf cart that was supposed to pick us up acting as a piece of scenery.

Now, there was  another hiccup during cocktail hour and that had to do with the music. I’d created playlists to run the allotted times starting with cocktail hour. I’d spend hours adding and removing songs to make the times work out just so, and labeled each playlist with the start time to make it virtually mistake-proof. I did this for a very specific reason as we’d planned to play  a specific song as the transition between cocktail hour and the prelude, and the playlists would easily flow from one segment to the next. And I’d gone over this musical cue with the DoC during our last planning meeting.

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The wrinkle came when the DoC opted to start the cocktail hour playlist early–while they were still setting the area up and we were still taking pictures down the hill. I’d heard the music start, but hoped (since there was nothing to do about it from where I was) that she’d reset it at the appointed time.

I’m sure no one is surprised that she didn’t, and our transition song played at good 30 minutes early. *eyeroll* I remember hearing the opening measure and whipping my head around, looking for the DoC. She adjusted the playlist to an earlier track, but I’m afraid the damage was done. Instead of the distinctive intro to Europe’s The Final Countdown (yes, we did, we totally went there) sounding at 11:30, the DoC simply cut the music off completely. Instead of the gentle, gradual movement of guests (with chuckles from those who got the joke) from one side of the fountain to their seats on the other, the silence made everyone self-conscious about taking their time and they all rushed to their chairs.

The other songs I’d queued up for before the parents were seated? They got skipped, too. And this is how we found ourselves moving up the timeline a good 10 minutes.

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Highway to Happiness: And Then We Waited

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Thinking that our “chariot” (aka a Bentley golf cart they include in their wedding packages) would soon arrive, we went back inside to freshen up and chill out for a moment before it was time to greet our guests.

Kara decided to take some pictures of our ears while we waited. | All photos by Pink Shutterbug Photography

Kara, never one to waste precious natural light, decided to take some pictures of our ears while we waited. | All photos by Pink Shutterbug Photography

Roadie decided to have a little fun with the Scrabble tiles–Friend-ficiant L had been half-threatening to open with the Princess Bride speech that this was just too good to pass up.

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And Kara decided to grab my monkey from the dressing room for a little clowning around.

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Sitting in the big poofy dress made me feel like a kid playing dress-up for some reason.

Eventually we went out to the resort-side porch thinking the car would be along any moment. Only it wasn’t. Cocktail Hour had begun, we could see our guests arriving at the top of the hill, hear the music playing, but our transportation was no where to be seen.

So close, and yet so far away...

So close, and yet so far away…

I take that back–we could actually see the canopy just beyond the fountain.

It felt like being locked out of our own party and I was starting to get a bit miffed that we weren’t up there to greet our guests–that had been the plan, after all. My phone was in my clutch that I’d sent ahead with Mama Leadfoot. Roadie tried to text his sister but she was being a polite guest and had already put her phone on silent. We found the DoC’s number but, of course, she wasn’t answering either.

So there we stood, waiting, watching our own party from the bottom of the hill, and I said ‘We’ll give them 5 more minutes.’

About 30 seconds later I changed my mind (I’m not known for being incredibly patient): ‘Screw it, we’re walking, now!’

We'll call this the walk before the walk!

We’ll call this the walk before the walk!

Unbeknownst to us, at the time, Mama and Dr. Aunt were both on the DoC’s tail about ‘Shouldn’t they be here by now?’ and ‘Isn’t that the cart that’s supposed to be picking them up?’ Supposedly the driver was there one moment and then he just disappeared, no where to be tracked down.

Of course, right about then Mama caught sight of us approaching ‘Too late now!’

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DoC: We were just getting ready to come get you!
Miss RT: We decided not to miss any more of the party waiting!

But hey, we were here, now, time to mingle!

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Highway to Happiness: Family Pictures

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Posed, formal family portraits were pretty low on my photography priority list, but even I can see that they’re nice to have–I just didn’t want to spend a lot of time taking them! I may have rushed our photographers a bit, and I appreciate their patience as I called out the groupings, adding one more person per group after each handful of shots.

We started with just us and Mama Leadfoot, then added in Dr. Aunt.

Originally SiL (blue dress) stood on the other side of her husband but my need for symmetry kicked in and I asked them to rearrange themselves.

Originally SiL (blue dress) stood on the other side of her husband but my need for symmetry kicked in and I asked them to rearrange themselves.

Then my brothers got into the picture, finally adding my sister-in-law. Mom sorta missed the everyone-stand-at-an-angle memo, but it’s all good.

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Switch to Roadie’s family, starting with his mom, then adding dad in too. Roadie’s parents are divorced and don’t really interact all that much of their own volition so we were a little concerned about how tense this day might be. We needn’t have worried, though–they either took an oath to be shiny, happy people this day or their ire has mellowed over the years.

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And Roadie’s sister completes the picture.

A funny thing happened with one of these pictures. Roadie’s dad posted one of the group shots on his Facebook page and a few people got really confused since he was wearing a white jacket and standing next to me. Someone on his friends list asked “D, you didn’t?!” And we always thought it was the women wearing white we had to worry about!

Looking back on the photos we do have (more than this, but I limited the ones in the post since, well, they only really matter to the people in them), I do wish I’d asked for one with us and both sides of the family together, but there’s nothing to be done about it now. It’s not a full-on regret, just wish I’d thought of it then.

At this point we were getting close to the start of cocktail hour so I sent our families up to the Gathering Hall so they wouldn’t have to rush (and so Mom could get some coffee). The golf cart would be coming down for us and we wanted time to take some staged getaway pictures with it before we arrived at Cocktail Hour, ourselves.

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Highway to Happiness: Getting Spiffy

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Primping and preening done, it was time to get into the dress and move onto the more public parts of the day.

I nested the crinoline inside the dress before stepping-in, at that point the dress nearly stood up on it's own! | all images via Pink Shutterbug Photography

I nested the crinoline inside the dress before stepping-in, at that point the dress nearly stood up on it’s own! | all images via Pink Shutterbug Photography

While I’ve put on the dress myself several times, there’s that quintessential image of a mother helping fasten her daughter’s wedding dress. Mama Leadfoot and I, however, don’t really have that sort of relationship. It didn’t take me long to realize that if I was going to have anyone fasten the top hook of my dress, it was going to be Roadie.

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As far as ‘first looks’ go, I thought ours was pretty sweet.

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Once we were all put together, it was time to head outside for some couples shots.

Just want to take a moment to point out how well Roadie cleans up!

Just want to take a moment to point out how well Roadie cleans up!

Even though we had fun during our engagement shoot, having a bit of an audience this time made it a touch on the awkward side (not to mention the fancier that usual clothes–I’m sure that didn’t help). Still, I managed to stand still long enough for a few shots while the family filtered into the cottage and sorted out their corsage and boutonniere situations.

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And speaking of boutonnieres, we got halfway through couples portraits only to realize Roadie wasn’t wearing his! So off he went into the house to get pinned while I tried not to be completely awkward in front of the camera alone.

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Okay, so here’s the question: what lapel does the boutonniere go on? I say it goes on the left lapel, over the heart, but Dr. Aunt was adamant they went on the right.

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The rain have abated, but we still had a strong breeze to contend with this morning.

Brother: You know not to argue with a H—r.
Me (as I switch Roadie’s boutonniere to the other lapel): Well, I’m a H—r, too.
Me: Besides, I’m the bride, and that’s the way I want it.

I think I pulled that card at most twice on the wedding day, but I can’t remember the other circumstance so maybe I really didn’t. Either way, I still think I was correct on the left lapel issue, but Dr. Aunt will probably never admit it. That side of the family is known for being right on everything, though usually (as with today) it’s done with a big dose of humor.

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And with a few last shots of us, it was time to move on to family pictures.

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